First Quarter

Today marks the end of the first quarter of the 2026-27 academic year at MBA, which I cannot believe.  I was determined, this school year, to be intentional about slowing down so can enjoy JP's final year at home.  Of course, that hasn't happened as I've been busy at work and our family is constantly on the go, so here I sit on a Friday late morning, outside of Sump Coffee, thinking about how elusive the passage of time is when you have children.

So much has happened this school year already.  It makes my head spin.

Joe ran extremely well for the MBA JS cross country team, finishing in the top five for MBA and scoring in every meet.  The team went undefeated and won the HVAC title in the final race on a tiebreaker.  I think Joe enjoyed himself, although he hasn't been running since the season ended.  Will he run in high school?  That's to be determined.  

Joe made the MBA JS "A" soccer team and started in goal yesterday in a 6-0 win against an overmatched Ensworth team.  Since soccer is not one of Joe's main sports, I will be curious to see how he plays in what will be his last, albeit abbreviated, season of competitive soccer.  

It looks like Joe is going to have a 90 + average across all of his classes, which will put him on the privilege list at school for the first time.  That will be big for him, assuming it happens.

JP's cross country season has been, well, fine to date.  6th at Cecil Field, 1st at Chickasaw Trails, 8th at Southern Showcase, and 8th at Frank Horton.  He's only run one race under 15:40, which is surprising to me.  I anticipated him running well under 15:30 all season.  It will be interesting to see how he runs in the remainder of his races, the Metro Championship and the State Meet at Shelby Farm.  

JP and Joe have been active in the Catholic Club at MBA, which is nice to see.  In fact, just this morning they had an early meeting.  JP has been particularly active int he Broadcast Club at school.  He was one of three broadcasters for a "Game Day" production during the Friday school day before one of the football games.  I think JP and Joe are broadcasting an MBA hockey game together next week, which will be milestone for our family, for sure.  

The MBA football team, thus far, has enjoyed a charmed season with a 6 - 1 record in Coach Chris Chauvin's first season has head coach.  When the Big Red has a good football season, things feel different at school, for sure.

And, of course, JP verbally committed to run cross country and track at Davidson College.  He's very excited, as he should be, and I'm happy for him.  It's a big decision, no doubt, and one I know he's glad to have behind him.  

Joe's travel baseball team has played in two tournament, with a third to come the weekend before Halloween.  It's a nice group of boys and parents.    

Sadly, I lost one of my lions, Ed Silva, whom I'm still trying to find time and energy to write about.  It's hard because he meant so much to me, personally and professionally.  I'm not sure I can capture that in one post.  

Todd Matteson died a few weeks ago after a relatively short battle with pancreatic cancer.  Troy Baines is not doing well.  Jude's dad, another of may lions, continues to struggle valiantly against Parkinson's disease.  There's too much of that type of thing going on in my life, I think.

It's still a little warm, unseasonably warm, for my liking, although at least the mornings are cooler.  I put the Halloween decorations up at work on September 30, as is my custom, which marked the official beginning of all for me and the fact that I survived another hot Nashville August.

Davidson College!

Sunday morning, JP made it official.  He verbally committed to Davidson College to continue his academic and athletic career, running cross country and track.  He's so happy, and so proud, as he should be.  As a parent, there's nothing better than seeing your child happy.

Where to start?  

JP has worked so hard at MBA, academically and athletically.  He's earned the opportunity to attend a college as strong academically as Davidson, and to compete in cross country and track and field at the Division 1 level.  Selfishly, I thought more Power 4 schools should have expressed interest in him, but I think he landed right where he needs to be.  

Unless I miss my guess, JP will be able to compete, and contribute to the team right away.  Unlike at a Power 4 school, Coach Allden won't recruit graduate transfers over him that might take his travel spot on the team.  Davidson College also won't admit a bunch of foreign athletes to stack their team, like Oklahoma State, Eastern Kentucky, Holy Cross, and so many others.  Running at a Power 4 school is such a grind, too, with academics often an afterthought or at least not the focus.  In short, I think Davidson is a perfect fit for JP.

The recruiting process had been stressful, and strange, too.  For JP, texting and e-mailing with coaches on a daily basis.  College recruiting visits.  Meeting with his academic advisor, Jake Myers, and the college athletic liaison at MBA, Daniel Childs.  Both men have been instrumental in JP's college search and, on top of that, have been great sounding boards for him, especially this year, as recruiting heated up.  It's been a lot.

JP telephoned Coach Jeff Langdon at Belmont U. and Coach Christian Hubaker at Elon U. on Sunday to give them the new that he had chosen Davidson College.  Both of them were gracious and appreciative of JP's call.  I cannot say enough about both of them, as coaches and as men.  All class.

Jeff Langdon has been such a strong supporter of JP, almost from the very beginning of his running career.  I often saw him at Bongo Java in the mornings, particularly during JP's junior school and freshman years, and he never failed to ask about JP or ask me to pass along a message of support to JP.  He kept up with JP's race results and gave me sound advice about JP continuing to play baseball and run track until his junior year.  Jeff has become a friend, and I think it will stay that way.

JP, and really, all of us deeply love Belmont U.  We are sidewalk alumni, to be sure.  It would have been so easy for JP to say yes to Coach Langdon and Belmont U., but in the end, I think he wanted to go away to school.  It will be good for JP, I know, to go away to school.  A lifetime ago, I made a similar decision under different circumstances when I chose UT over Vanderbilt.  I wanted - needed - to get away from home.

Christian Hubaker was on JP the earliest, after Jeff Langdon.  He was the most persistent in staying in touch with JP, text messaging him often and talking on the phone with him on multiple occasions.  He believed in JP from the beginning and that meant a lot to JP, and to me.  JP enjoyed the visit to Elon, as I did, and he respects Christian a lot, which is what made it so difficult to tell him he had decided to attend Davidson.    

It would have been nice to get JP on campus at Washington U. in St. Louis, where he had a visit scheduled this weekend.  It just didn't work out from a timing standpoint, and JP is bound and determined to run at the Division 1 level, and I support him in feeling that way.  Some athletes have to find out, and JP has always been one of those.

The good news is that while other high school seniors are making their decisions, JP's is already made.  That should take some of the pressure off and allow him to enjoy his senior year at MBA.  That's my hope for him, anyway, although I know he will keep working hard in school and running.

A Weekend On and Off the Road

Friday afternoon, I rove through a downpour of rain to get to Andrea McCoy's wedding at the Hermitage.  Jude had left with JP for Memphis, so he could run in the Frank Horton Night Classic on Saturday evening, while Joe would be at home and on his own for dinner.

I had a bourbon in the Oak Room before the wedding, which was a nice way to end the work week.  I hadn't been to the Hermitage, or the Oak Room, for at least two decades, if not more.  Now, as one of the old guys, it was nice to sit for a few minutes, sip my bourbon, and watch and listen to the younger, energetic, patrons in the bar, many of which were at the Hermitage for Andrea's wedding.

The wedding was beautiful and Andrea was stunningly beautiful.  Tall, thin, and sparkling in a brilliant white dress, as she walked down the aisle in the terrace, I felt so happy for she and Austin.  I wish them a wonderful life together.  Dinner was delayed after the wedding, so I breached etiquette and left to go home and spend the evening with Joe.  My "Irish exit" was accompanied with more than a little guilt but I knew the weekend would be crazy and I would be in Memphis on Saturday, so I hated to miss a night to hang out with Joe.

Saturday morning, after Joe's 9 a.m. baseball game in Hendersonville, I drove back home, picked up a few things, and headed to the AirBnB I had rented in Memphis, five minutes away from Shelby Farms Park and the cross country course.  We'll return there for the state cross country meet in a few weeks, so it was a a good change for the boys to run the course once in a race before state meet.  JP wanted to post a fast time but he was coming off a stomach virus that kept him home from school on Thursday and left his ability to run the race at all in doubt.

In the end, he was on the line for the final race of the evening, at 8:30 p.m., in what really was a pretty cool atmosphere.  Lights posted on the course, attached to generators, and globes of some sort on the back side of the course.  Pretty cool.  Prior to the race, JP mentioned to Jude that he wasn't feeling particularly well, which portended a difficult race for him.

That's what happened, too, as JP ran in the lead pack for the first couple of miles before he seemed to run out of gas.  He probably ran the first mile too quickly, in 4:40, and that, combined with the fact that he was still under the weather, made the last mile a difficult one for him.  He finished 8th overall at 15:41, behind Gabe, who was 5th.  It's hard to quibble about a 15:41 race, but JP was disappointed afterwards.

JP and I decided to drive home after the race, rather than have him ride the bus.  His car was at our house and he had some things to take care of Sunday morning.  Plus, his stomach was still giving him trouble and we knew it would be easier to stop if I was driving rather than if he was riding one of the buses back to MBA.  He slept most of the way back and, in the end, we were glad to be home when we arrived shortly after 1 a.m.

Sunday morning, still groggy, I drove over to Hendersonville for Joe's game.  T'hey lost 2 - 1, mostly because they just couldn't hit, which seems to be a theme with this group.  Hopefully, that will improve in the offseason, because it will need to.  I'm committed to getting Joe hitting again, which will necessarily involve him gettin stronger.  There's a theme there, I know.  Joe needs to get stronger.

At the game, I was reminded of why we chose for Joe to play with the NBA Cannons.  Brad Lusk picked up Joe from the McDaniels' house for the game, further proof that it takes a village to raise a child.  I spent a large part of the game talking to Kristin Lusk, while Brad chatted with Ben and Audrey Phillips.  Having Joe play baseball with Bennett (Lusk) and Huck (Phillips) is going to be fun.

Joe and play a lot - and I mean, a lot - of ping pong ever the weekend.  I am on a bit of a roll, beating him 4 - 1 on Saturday and 6 - 0 last night.  He was not happy.

It's going to be a busy week.  Aren't they all, though?

At the Old (Travel) Baseball Game

I will forever have a love-hate relationship with travel sports.  Mostly hate, actually, because it's such a racket.  

This morning at Drake's Creek in Hendersonville, I will watch Joe play in what very likely will amount to a C +, or B - (if they're lucky) baseball game.  In other words, this will be a recreational league-level baseball game in which the parents of players on both teams have paid $2,500, give or take, so their sons can play "travel baseball."  Few of these boys will play high school baseball and none of them will play college baseball.

Our guys, 13 and 14 years old, are undersized.  Somehow, all of Joe's "travel" baseball teams are undersized.  As I look at the other team, which has much bigger boys, I feel confident in predicting a blowout.  Joe's team will be gonged early is my guess.   

Recreational baseball has been ruined by travel baseball, which is a shame.  I could write a book about it and, maybe, someday I should.

POSTSCRIPT    

In game one, a 5 - 3 loss, Joe pitched four scoreless innings in relief.  He struck out three, walked one, and only gave up one hit.  There were some hard hit balls but his defense played well behind him.  Although he's lost at the plate right now, he had a two strike, RBI single to right in his last at bat.

The Cannons lost game two badly, 13 - 4.

Elon

Another couple of days, another official visit, this time to Elon University.  I'm tired and ready to be back home, so I know JP feels the same way.  After all, he's been the one on display for the past four days, having to turn on the personality as much as possible as he meets new people - possible future teammates - coaches, etc.  That's a lot to ask of anyone, particularly someone like JP, who tends to be relatively quiet and understated most of the time.  I know he will be glad to finish up our trip and get home, although I'm sure he has a ton of school work to get to, since he will have missed two days of school.

Elon is a beautiful campus.  Bigger and more spread out than Davison College, there are huge, old growth oak trees everywhere.  It's bucolic to be sure, and very peaceful.  It helps, of course, that we're visiting on two of the most gorgeous days of the year at the very beginning of fall weather, after a almost four months of summer heat that it felt like would never end.  As I told someone yesterday, it felt like August lasted 7 1/2 weeks this year.  

JP's hosts, Peyton (Charleston, SC) and Luke (Boston, MA), have been great to spend time with.  Very friendly, smart, and outgoing.  Honestly, just very nice young men that I know their parents are proud of.  Certainly, they're the type of boys I could say JP hanging out with and developing lasting friendships.  Of course, that seems to be true of most of the places we've visited.  Distance runners seem to share certain personality traits.  Easy to get along with but competitive.  Disciplined.  Serious about getting the work in, athletically and academically.  Supportive.  Unselfish.

I'm going to finish up my coffee at the on campus coffee shop and bar, The Oak Room, and hustle over to meet with JP and the coaches for a tour of the athletic facilities and a meeting.  Afterwards, we'll drive to the Raleigh, NC airport, return the rental car, and fly home.  

Home.  It has a nice ring to it, especially with the fall season upon us and Halloween around the corner. 

Davidson

I love college towns.  Maybe, it's small college towns that I love, on second thought.  Sewanee.  And, Davidson, where I am today with JP, who is on an official visit.  Well, I am not actually with JP, as he stayed in the dorm last night with a member of the cross country team and he'll be there again tonight, as well.  I did get to see JP for a while today, as the parents and their boys/girls met up for a presentation at Career Services and a tour of the athletic facilities led by the track and field coach.  Now, he's off again with his host, although I will see him at dinner tonight on campus.

It's been a whirlwind of a visit to Davidson College.  All of these official visits are whirlwinds, to be sure.  There's added stress this time of year, too, as boys and girls are committing every day to various colleges and universities to run cross county and track, and there are a limited number of spots available.  It's a bit like a game of musical chairs, or at least it feels that way to me.  JP and I will meet with the coach in private tomorrow, then off we go, 48 hours after we arrived on campus.

I know JP is feeling pressure to make a decision all while assimilating as much general information about colleges and universities as possible, along with specific information about their cross county and track teams.  All of this while training for his senior cross country season, competing at the highest level in cross country meets, and studying to maintain his stellar academic record at one of the two most rigorous and demanding high school in Tennessee.  Oh, and it's his senior year and last year at home, so he needs to find some time to enjoy himself.

Wow.  As Jude and I say, "that's a full lid."  Indeed.

Davidson is beautiful.  A small undergraduate only school with a student population of roughly 2,000 and an average teacher-student ratio of 8:1, it's nestled in a small town - Davidson, NC - that's less than a half hour out of Charlotte.  Perhaps it's because this is the first fall weekend after a dreadfully long and hot summer that extended well into September, but I'm really taken with Davidson College and the surrounding area.  

Dinner last night, solo, at Flat Iron, coffee this morning and again, right now, from Summit Coffee on Main Street.  Students, children, and locals walking up and down the sidewalk on a gorgeous fall day.  It doesn't get much better than this, at least for me. 

I think I'm going to drive back to the hotel in my rental - a Genesis sports sedan of some sort (quite a nice ride) - and unwind for a little while before I drive back over for the catered dinner tonight.  Although I've thoroughly enjoyed meeting the parents of the other distance runners visiting this weekend, I'm kind of talked out, honestly.  I would be perfect happy to have dinner again, solo, with a nice glass of wine.  Still, I'll decompress for a bit then drive back to campus.

I love fall.

Running the Table

Joe's MBA Junior School cross country team ran the table on Thursday when they won the meet at USN's River Campus, finishing the season undefeated.  The HVAC championship meet is this Thursday and while Coach Elijah Reynolds' squad will be the favorite, USN has run a close second at every race.

In junior school at MBA, the athletic seasons pass by so quickly.  Cross country is almost over, then it's on to soccer.  I've really, really enjoyed watching Joe and his teammates race, although the weather has been horrendously hot.  

I don't want Joe's cross country season, and how much it's meant to me to watch him run, to get lost in the excitement of JP's quest for a 5k under 15:00 and a state title.  Joe has had an outstanding season, which is a result of all the work he put in this summer and has continued to put in since school started a few weeks ago.  

Every race, Joe has consistently finished 7th or 8th overall and been in MBA's top 5, scoring runners.  As I've learned over the years with JP's group, almost every cross country team has a runner or two who can challenge for the top spot.  What makes a successful cross country team, though, is depth.  When MBA qualified for NXN in Portland, OR, during JP's freshman year, it was because they were so deep.  As freshmen, JP and Gabe Guillamondegui were already high level runners who gave the team an opportunity to compete an a level unseen for several years.

In Thursday's race, for example, Cullen Weaver battled the leaders early, and finished third overall.  Joe ran with a group of MBA runners who finished 6 - 10.  Having that many boys running that close together effectively ended any chance USN had at finishing first overall, even though they had three very good runners in the top 10.  That's depth.

Joe finished Thursday's race in 11:56, another PR for him.  Two miles in under 12:00 is a strong run.

To see Joe's growth as a runner this summer and fall has been a tremendous and unexpected blessing for me.  As I've written before, I was a little skeptical when Joe approached me at the end of the school year last spring and suggested he wanted to run cross country this fall.  I wasn't sure what his motivations were but I knew - I mean, I really knew - that if he wanted to do it, he would need to train his ass off all summer.  I just wasn't sure if he had the desire and the discipline to do it.

I also wanted Joe to want to run cross country for the right reasons.  Not because his brother was such an accomplished cross country runner.  I wanted Joe to want to run for Joe, and for no one else.  Not for JP and certainly not for me.  At one point, JP intervened on Joe's behalf and initiated a conversation with me to convince me that Joe was serious about wanting to run cross country in the fall.

I agreed, bought Joe a pair or two of running shoes, and off he went.  Joe ran all summer long in the mornings.  His dedication impressed me because I hadn't seen him commit to something with his whole heart and mind in the past.  Over the course of the summer, Joe turned himself in to a runner.  His body changed and, I think, he gained confidence in his ability to run.  This fall, I think he's gained confidence in his ability to run well, even in extreme heat. 

Joe has really, really enjoyed being part of the cross country team.  As I learned with JP, there is a bond that the members of a cross country team share that is different than with other teams.  The boys spend so much time together, running.  Training and racing is a shared experience at all levels of skill.  With Joe's team, too, Elijah Reynolds does such an amazing job with the boys, too.  He instills in them a love of running, I think.

What does the future hold for Joe as a runner?  Honestly, I don't know.  My hope is that he will run cross country in high school, but he's going to have to love running to do it.  The time commitment and the training will increase, of course.  However, his confidence will grow if he dedicates himself to running.  Most of all, though, I want Joe to sustain a lifelong love of running, like I have.  My fervent hope, for Joe and JP, is that they will run throughout their lives.

It's not about the running.  It's what you learn from the running.